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In our endeavours to effect this great object, kind and mild, and serene, but unyielding, perseverance is to be employed. There must be neither violence nor hurry. If the child is impatient, some restraint, if necessary, must be used to prevent ebullitions of passion or fretfulness, and time must be given for it to recover itself: then steady and unwearied, but calm and affectionate, addres ses to his reason and feelings, suited to its age, and habits, and natural disposition, must be employed. The sagacity and ingenuity of the parent must be tasked to select the best topics, and handle them in the best manner, for the production of the desired effect. But, above all, his eye must be upon God for guidance and a blessing, and for putting his own mind in the frame best adapted to win upon the affections of the child, and impress his heart. The dawnings of a right spirit in him must be hailed; openness and confidence must be courted and encouraged; the kindness of God and Christ to penitents must be as fully and touchingly pourtrayed as their har tred of sin. Care must be taken not to overstrain or overpower the feelings; and when any danger of doing so appears, a pause must take place till they are relieved, and self-command is regained. This course admits of great variations, and must be carefully adapted to the age, and character, and attainments of the child: but I think I can say from experience, that it will seldom if ever fail of ultimate success, if steadily and habitually pursued. It may be said to begin from nothing; and for several months a very small part of it will be brought forward, though

there will be a continual progress, as the mind of the child opens, and something right in moral feeling and habit is established. He will begin to learn the difference between being good and naughty; though he desists from doing a naughty thing, he continues naughty till he is sorry for it and good humoured; and then, and not till then, he may expect the kiss of forgiveness, and regain the favour of his parent. Next he will be taught to reflect on his happiness when good, and on the pain he suffers when naughty; and he will be told that this is from God, who loves goodness and hates naughtiness, as he sees his parents do. Then he will proceed to learn that, like his parents, God expects sorrow for sin, and a mild and humble prayer for forgiveness, before he will forgive a naughty child, and love him and make him happy. While this is in progress, the parent will endeavour to make the child feel the evil and folly of naughtiness, and the beauty and true wisdom of being good. This will not be very difficult to inculcate, when the child is sensible that sin and misery, and holiness and happiness, generally go together. During the latter part of this course, gospel facts and principles will be gradually opened. The child will have heard of Christ ever since he first heard of God; and now the distinct character and offices of Christ will begin to be unfolded. He will be painted as the Friend of mankind; as the great Refuge of all who have done wrong; as always willing to help them, and beg his Father to forgive them; as all kindness and goodness, and as setting us

an example of all that is lovely and excellent; and as now exalted in glory, and all-wise, and all-powerful. Pains will be taken to make Him the object of affection attempered by reverence, and to make it pleasant to the child to please him, and painful to offend him. The child will in like manner be made acquainted with the Holy Ghost, and heaven, and hell, and the day of judgment, and eternity, and the lost state of man, and redemption. All these things will be taught with an immediate reference to practice and the heart. They must be unfolded gradually, and with a strict attention to the abilities and temperament of the child; and special care must be taken, that by God's blessing the feelings shall be properly affected as the understanding is informed.

5. Be on your guard against the little wiles and artifices, which children will soon employ to obtain their ends.

It is surprising how ingenious and adroit they will be in this way. They will endeavour to do, as mere play, something, which they know to be wrong and forbidden; and to put you off, by a laugh and a jest, when you require them to acknowledge that they have done wrong. These little tricks lead to much evil. They undermine sincerity and simplicity of character; and instead of being amused by them, as is often the case, a parent should view them with concern, and in that spirit carefully repress them. It is a good general rule in early youth, that nothing shall be said or done in jest, which would be wrong if in earnest. More latitude may be allowed to those who are grown up ; but children cannot

so easily discriminate between what is innocent in jests, and what is not; and if they could, they have not sufficient steadiness of principle, and sufficient self-command to confine themselves within the proper bounds, when suffered in their moments of gaiety to approach the brink of what is wrong. It is of the greatest possible importance to preserve the mind from the taint of cunning and deceit; and therefore we ought to be more anxious to avoid doing too little than too much to secure this point. Simplicity and integrity of character, the great foundation of every thing good, depend upon it.

6. Do all you can to secure a consistency of system in the management of your children.


It is quite apparent how indispensable it is that the father and mother should at least not counteract each other. If they do not and cannot think alike on the subject of education, by mutal concessions and accommodations they should pursue a similar plan with their childGrievous are the conséquences when they proceed differently. The children presume to erect themselves into judges between their parents: they play off one against the other. Not only one parent sinks in their esteem, but they often lose respect for both, and are disobedient to both. Thus the Fifth Commandment is habitually broken; and bad principles and bad habits are as likely to be established by education in a young family, so circumstanced, as good ones.-Let me intreat parents to shun this fatal rock. If one of them is conscious that the other is best qualified for the work of education, let

such parent be disposed to yield points as far as duty will allow, and to strengthen the hands of the other. And even the other, instead of presuming on superior ability in this line, and carrying matters with a high hand, and peremptorily insisting on points respecting which there may be a difference of opinion between them, should proceed with as much accommodation as can be made consistent with duty; and where a point cannot be yielded, still the suaviter in modo* should be practised with peculiar care, and the necessary duty performed in a way as little grating and offensive to the parent, who disapproves, as may be. Let the more enlightened parent recollect, that an indifferent plan of education, in which parents harmoniously join, will generally answer much better than a superior one, respecting which they differ. Besides, by kind accommodations, the misjudging parent is often won by degrees to see things in a more just light, and to acquiesce in a better system. Where both parents act on principle, and refer to the Bible as their standard, and do not interpret it in a very different way, a degree of accordance, which will answer tolerably well for practical purposes, may reasonably be expected. The greatest difficulty arises when one of the parents does not act on principle, or refers, substantially, to a different standard from the other. Even in these distressing cases, the suaviter in modo,† on a true christian foundation, will do wonders. It often disarms hostility and counteraction, and leaves the young family very much in the hands Mild and pleasant.

A gentle and accommodating manner.

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