Hide not your grief nor your gladness; be open one with the other; Imparting halveth the evils, while it doubleth the pleasures of life, YOUNG wife, be not froward, nor forget that modesty becometh thee. Ye have each a soul to be nourished, and a mind to be taught in wisdom, If ye feel love to decline, track out quickly the secret cause; LET no one have thy confidence, O wife, saving thine husband: In the joy of a well-ordered home, be warned that this is not your rest; For the substance to come may be forgotten in the present beauty of the shadow. If ye are blessed with children, ye have a fearful pleasure, A deeper care and a higher joy, and the range of your existence is widened: If God in wisdom refuse them, thank him for an unknown mercy: Yet ye may pray, like Hannah, simply dependent on his will: OF EDUCATION. A BABE in a house is a well-spring of pleasure, a messenger of peace and love: A resting place for innocence on earth; a link between angels and men: For disposition is builded up by the fashioning of first impressions: And the habit of obedience and trust may be grafted on his mind in the cradle : Hold the little hands in prayer, teach the weak knees their kneeling; SELECT not to nurse thy darling one that may taint his innocence, For example is a constant monitor, and good seed will die among the tares The arts of a strange servant have spoiled a gentle disposition: Mother, let him learn of thy lips, and be nourished at thy breast. Character is mainly moulded by the cast of the minds that surround it: Let then the playmates of thy little one be not other than thy judgment shall approve; For a child is in a new world, and learneth somewhat every moment, His eye is quick to observe, his memory storeth in secret, His ear is greedy of knowledge, and his mind is plastic as soft wax. Peware then that he hearth what is good, that he feedeth not on evil maxims, For the seeds of first instructions are dropped into the deepest furrows. That which immemorial use hath sanctioned, seemeth to be right and true; Therefore, let him never have to recollect the time when good things were strangers to his thought. Strive not to centre in thyself, fond mother, all his love; Nay, do not thou so selfishly, but enlarge his heart for others; Use him to sympathy betimes, that he learn to be sad with the afflicted.; And check not a child in his merriment,-should not his morning be sunny? Give him not all his desire, so shalt thou strengthen him in hope; thy firmness. Above all things graft on him subjection, yea in the veriest trifle; Courtesy to all, reverence to some, and to thee unanswering obedience. READ thou first, and well approve, the books thou givest to thy child; But remember the weakness of his thought, and that wisdom for him must be diluted; In the honied waters of infant tales, let him taste the strong wine of truth: Pathetic stories soften the heart; but legends of terror breed midnight misery; Fairy fictions cram the mind with folly, and knowledge of evil tempteth to like evil: Be not loath to curb imagination, nor be fearful that truths will depress it; And for evil, he will learn it soon enough; be not thou the devil's Induce not precocity of intellect, for so shouldst thou nourish vanity; Neither can a plant, forced in the hot-bed, stand against the frozen breath of winter. The mind is made wealthy by ideas, but the multitude of words is a clogging weight: Therefore be understood in thy teaching, and instruct to the measure of capacity. Analogy is milk for babes, but abstract truths are strong meat; Precepts and rules are repulsive to a child, but happy illustration win neth him: In vain shalt thou preach of industry and prudence, till he learn of the bee and the ant; Dimly will he think of his soul, till the acorn and chrysalis have taught him, He will fear God in thunder, and worship his loveliness in flowers; the Lord. Fearest thou the dark, poor child? I would not have thee left to thy terrors; Darkness is the semblance of evil, and nature regardeth it with dread: Yet know thy father's God is with thee still, to guard thee: It is a simple lesson of dependence, let thy tost mind anchor upon Him. Did a sudden noise affright thee? lo, this or that hath caused it: Things undefined are full of dread, and stagger stouter nerves. The seeds of misery and madness have been sowed in the nights of infancy; Therefore be careful that ghastly fears be not the night companions of thy child. Lo, thou art a land-mark on a hill; thy little ones copy thee in all things. Let, then, thy religion be perfect: so shalt thou be honoured in thy house. Meanness is always despicable, and folly provoketh contempt. Those parents are best honoured whose characters best deserve it; Show me a child undutiful, I shall know where to look for a foolish father: Never hath a father done his duty, and lived to be despised of his son. But how can that son reverence an example he dare not follow ? Should he imitate thee in thine evil? his scorn is thy rebuke. Nay, but bring him up aright, in obedience to God and to thee; Begin betimes, lest thou fail of his fear; and with judgment, that thou lose not his love: Herein use good discretion, and govern not all alike, Yet, perhaps, the fault wilt be in thee, if kindness prove not all sufficient: By kindness, the wolf and the zebra become docile as the spaniel and the horse: The kite feedeth with the starling, under the law of kindness: That law shall tame the fiercest, bring down the battlements of pride, Let thy carriage be the gentleness of love, not the stern front of tyranny of passion, Nevertheless spare not, if thy word hath passed for punishment; Let not thy child see thee humbled, nor learn to think thee false; Suffer none to reprove thee before him, and reprove not thine own purposes by change; Yet speedily turn thou again, and reward him where thou canst, For kind encouragement in good cutteth at the roots of evil. DRIVE not a timid infant from his home, in the early spring-time of his life, Commit not that treasure to an hireling, nor wrench the young heart's fibres: In his helplessness leave him not alone, a stranger among strange children, |