Falling in Love: Why We Choose the Lovers We ChooseFalling in Love is the first book to unlock the mysteries of how and why we fall in love. Renowned psychologist Ayala Pines shows us why we fall for the people we do, and argues convincingly that we love neither by chance nor by accident. She offers sound advice for making the right choices when it comes to this complicated emotion. Packed with helpful suggestions for those seeking love and those already in it, this book is about love's many puzzles. The second edition furthers the work of the popular and successful first edition. With expanded research, theory, and practice, this book once again provides one of a kind understandings of the experience of love. The new edition offers updated references to recent research, new chapter exercises, and "case examples" of romantic stories to begin each chapter. |
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... marriage to Eros was sanctioned by the gods. And so romantic love (Eros) and the human soul (Psyche) remain united forever. From the first time I met him, there was something that attracted me to him. I was actually going out with ...
... married. After all, love is blind, irrational, and temporary, whereas choosing a marriage partner is serious business. Because it is expected to last forever, marriage is, and should be, given careful thought and consideration. But, is ...
... marriage.19 Not only is falling in love a unique stage in a love relationship--a stage that is far more intense than other stages—~but also some psychotherapists view it as a rather insignificant stage. Scott Peck, for example, defined ...
... marriage, and there is a universal wish to believe that it can provide a strong enough foundation and last through the life of the marriage. ROMANTIC LOVE AND THE SEARCH FOR EXISTENTIAL SIGNIFICANCE According to Greek mythology Eros is ...
... marriage partners. As the following story suggests, matchmakers are not the only ones who are in on these secrets ... marry through a matchmaker also report that love frequently grows in the marriage that took place between people who ...
Contents
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How We Choose the Loves We Choose | 105 |
Part Three ROMANTIC LOVE IN LONGTERM RELATIONSHIPS | 177 |
ROMANTIC CHOICES WORKSHOPS | 205 |
ANALYZING A ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP | 213 |
RESEARCH FINDINGS | 215 |
NOTES | 221 |
REFERENCES | 245 |
ABOUT THE AUTHOR | 265 |
PHOTO PERMISSIONS | 266 |
INDEX | 267 |