Falling in Love: Why We Choose the Lovers We ChooseFalling in Love is the first book to unlock the mysteries of how and why we fall in love. Renowned psychologist Ayala Pines shows us why we fall for the people we do, and argues convincingly that we love neither by chance nor by accident. She offers sound advice for making the right choices when it comes to this complicated emotion. Packed with helpful suggestions for those seeking love and those already in it, this book is about love's many puzzles. The second edition furthers the work of the popular and successful first edition. With expanded research, theory, and practice, this book once again provides one of a kind understandings of the experience of love. The new edition offers updated references to recent research, new chapter exercises, and "case examples" of romantic stories to begin each chapter. |
From inside the book
Results 1-5 of 55
... developed the skills of beauty, Aphrodite (the Roman Venus), and is a researcher and a couple therapist. portrayed as a winged naked youth. Gods repBut, even today, I find people's sto- resent the totality of experiences that humans ...
... develop. Renowned social psychologist Leon Festinger conducted a study of the residents of married student housing on the Massachusetts Institute of Technology campus in Cambridge. These dormitories were built in a U-shape around a ...
... develop closer friendships with other students who take the same courses, sit next to them in class, live with them, or live next to them in dorm rooms. Sales people in department stores form closer friendships with people who work ...
... develop liking, attraction, and comfort because we know we are going to spend time with a certain person? If we know that we are going to meet a certain person often—because he is going to work next to us, study in the same class, or ...
... develop by means of letters, telephone, and more recently electronic mail and can be extremely exciting and rewarding as such, most people need to meet in person before they allow themselves to fall in love. And, when people live, work ...
Contents
1 | |
How We Choose the Loves We Choose | 105 |
Part Three ROMANTIC LOVE IN LONGTERM RELATIONSHIPS | 177 |
ROMANTIC CHOICES WORKSHOPS | 205 |
ANALYZING A ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP | 213 |
RESEARCH FINDINGS | 215 |
NOTES | 221 |
REFERENCES | 245 |
ABOUT THE AUTHOR | 265 |
PHOTO PERMISSIONS | 266 |
INDEX | 267 |