The Surrendered Wife: A Practical Guide for Finding Intimacy, Passion and Peace with a ManA New York Times bestseller, this controversial guide to improving your marriage has transformed thousands of relationships, bringing women romance, harmony, and the intimacy they crave. Like millions of women, Laura Doyle wanted her marriage to be better. But when she tried to get her husband to be more romantic, helpful, and ambitious, he withdrew—and she was lonely and exhausted from controlling everything. Desperate to be in love with her man again, she decided to stop telling him what to do and how to do it. When Doyle surrendered control, something magical happened. The union she had always dreamed of appeared. The man who had wooed her was back. The underlying principle of The Surrendered Wife is simple: The control women wield at work and with children must be left at the front door of any marriage. Laura Doyle’s model for matrimony shows women how they can both express their needs and have them met while also respecting their husband’s choices. When they do, they revitalize intimacy. Compassionate and practical, The Surrendered Wife is a step-by-step guide that teaches women how to: · Give up unnecessary control and responsibility · Resist the temptation to criticize, belittle, or dismiss their husbands · Trust their husbands in every aspect of marriage—from sexual to financial · And more. The Surrendered Wife will show you how to transform a lonely marriage into a passionate union. |
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... Feel resentful or jealous. DO. YOU: RARELY. SOMETIMES. FREQUENTLY. 1. Feel superior to your husband? 2. Nag your husband? 3. Commiserate with other wives about your husband? 4. Hear yourself say, “I told my husband . . .” 5. Think that ...
... Feel resentful or jealous. DO. YOU: RARELY. SOMETIMES. FREQUENTLY. 1. Feel superior to your husband? 2. Nag your husband? 3. Commiserate with other wives about your husband? 4. Hear yourself say, “I told my husband . . .” 5. Think that ...
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... Feel resentful or jealous about your husband's victories in life? 14. Reject or criticize his gifts? 15. Fantasize about divorce or life with a man who would better match you? 16. Discount the reasons you chose your husband in the first ...
... Feel resentful or jealous about your husband's victories in life? 14. Reject or criticize his gifts? 15. Fantasize about divorce or life with a man who would better match you? 16. Discount the reasons you chose your husband in the first ...
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... feels respected. Thank your husband for his contributions and you will be well on your way to igniting passion and achieving intimacy. IF YOUR SCORE IS 61 OR ABOVE: Congratulations! Your marriage is very intimate and ... feel 17 INTRODUCTION.
... feels respected. Thank your husband for his contributions and you will be well on your way to igniting passion and achieving intimacy. IF YOUR SCORE IS 61 OR ABOVE: Congratulations! Your marriage is very intimate and ... feel 17 INTRODUCTION.
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... feel great about yourself and your marriage. Really. If you are like most women, you are already thinking about how your life will fall apart if you stop controlling your husband. Perhaps you feel you cannot refrain from teaching or ...
... feel great about yourself and your marriage. Really. If you are like most women, you are already thinking about how your life will fall apart if you stop controlling your husband. Perhaps you feel you cannot refrain from teaching or ...
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... feels secure in your opinion of him, he doesn't have to second-guess or steel himself because he's expecting you to pounce on him. When he knows you are on his side, he can relax and feel confident in himself. Most importantly, when he ...
... feels secure in your opinion of him, he doesn't have to second-guess or steel himself because he's expecting you to pounce on him. When he knows you are on his side, he can relax and feel confident in himself. Most importantly, when he ...
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The Surrendered Wife: A Woman's Spiritual Guide to True Intimacy With a Man Laura Doyle No preview available - 2000 |
The Surrendered Wife: A Practical Guide for Finding Intimacy, Passion, and ... Laura Doyle No preview available - 2001 |
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Page 137 - You will find as you look back upon your life that the moments that stand out, the moments when you have really lived, are the moments when you have done things in a spirit of love.
Page 241 - silence." Mother Teresa described the silence and its relationship to God by saying, "God is the friend of Silence. See how nature (trees, grass) grows in silence; see the stars, the moon and the sun — how they move in silence. We need silence to be able to touch souls.
Page 92 - The stoical scheme of supplying our wants by lopping off our desires is like cutting off our feet when we want shoes.
Page 186 - When we were children, we used to think that when we were grown-up we would no longer be vulnerable. But to grow up is to accept vulnerability.
Page 216 - Perfect love is rare indeed - for to be a lover will require that you continually have the subtlety of the very wise, the flexibility of the child, the sensitivity of the artist, the understanding of the philosopher, the acceptance of the saint, the tolerance of the scholar and the fortitude of the certain.
Page 66 - Wisdom is divided into two parts: (a) having a great deal to say, and (b) not saying it.
Page 241 - We need to find God, and he cannot be found in noise and restlessness. God is the friend of silence.
Page 243 - ... and balance. God is able to enlighten the understanding. I .am often bewildered, because my mind is only finite. I question and doubt my own judgments. Then I seek guidance, and when I am sure, I go ahead, leaving the results with Him. Our finite minds beside His infinite mind seem to me like this: I go walking, and the hills loom above me, range upon range, one against the other. I cannot tell where one begins, and another leaves off. But from the air (I seldom have time to travel any other...
Page 169 - I cannot say whether things will get better if we change; what I can say is they must change if they are to get better.
Page 270 - . . . there's only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that's your own self.