The Surrendered Wife: A Practical Guide for Finding Intimacy, Passion and Peace with a Man

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Simon and Schuster, Feb 28, 2001 - Family & Relationships - 288 pages
A New York Times bestseller, this controversial guide to improving your marriage has transformed thousands of relationships, bringing women romance, harmony, and the intimacy they crave.

Like millions of women, Laura Doyle wanted her marriage to be better. But when she tried to get her husband to be more romantic, helpful, and ambitious, he withdrew—and she was lonely and exhausted from controlling everything. Desperate to be in love with her man again, she decided to stop telling him what to do and how to do it. When Doyle surrendered control, something magical happened. The union she had always dreamed of appeared. The man who had wooed her was back.

The underlying principle of The Surrendered Wife is simple: The control women wield at work and with children must be left at the front door of any marriage. Laura Doyle’s model for matrimony shows women how they can both express their needs and have them met while also respecting their husband’s choices. When they do, they revitalize intimacy.

Compassionate and practical, The Surrendered Wife is a step-by-step guide that teaches women how to:

ˇ Give up unnecessary control and responsibility
ˇ Resist the temptation to criticize, belittle, or dismiss their husbands
ˇ Trust their husbands in every aspect of marriage—from sexual to financial
ˇ And more.

The Surrendered Wife will show you how to transform a lonely marriage into a passionate union.

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About the author (2001)

Laura Doyle is the author of the controversial bestsellers The Surrendered Wife and The Surrendered Single. A popular speaker on relationship issues, she teaches workshops based on her books. She lives in Costa Mesa, California, with her husband.

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