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The first year being gone (which is oftentimes but the beginning of sorrow to the parents) then they cannot easily be trusted alone, or out of sight; except in some good
le hand; and if it is never so little missing, then cries the mother, Oh! where is the child? What have you done with my child? Who has got it? And never rests till
k she is satisfied about it; And when it is brought to her, O, how she embraces and kisses it, as if she would wrap its soul up in her own! and then the heart, the bosom, and the breast are all open to it. What endearing expresions are poured out to it from its tender mother! as, “My dear, my love, my jewel,” &c. and sometimes from some sort of persons such fond expressions as are not justifiable.
But,' Oh, melancholy consideration ! all this love and tenderness is too often rewarded with hard heartedness su and cruelty. The mother may cry and may die too, if she will, for her dear love, and precious jewel, when grown up to man or woman's estate! From such ingratitude may the Lord deliver us.
This consideration is remarkable, as we are also the workmanship of God, and human creatures, that of all the creatures God hath made, there is scarcely any so helpless so long as man; so that man is so much the more obliged to his parents, and particularly his mother, who feeds us when we cannot feed ourselves, and carries us long before we can go alone, and defends us from harm, or we must perish. After all this, to be unkind and disobedient to our parents, is great ingratitude; and I scarce ever saw it go unpunished, even in this world. And pray, let the youth consider how it is like to fare with them in the next; for I address myself to those who believe the sacred writings of the holy scrip tures: for to others, some things herein may appear fabulous, as judgement to come doth to the atheist, though.0 divers of them feel it begin to come before they go out of the world, as hath been the case of many might be mentioned.
From the breast and the arms, to the seventh year our age, who can relate the world of trouble our pa
YOUTH PERSUADED TO OBEDIENCE, &c. rts have with us to keep us out of harm's way, to keep
from bad company, to keep us in health as much as
in their power, to clothe us, and keep us whole and In, and take care that we learn no ill words or man33; for about this time, little youths are very apt to n good or evil; and the careful, virtuous parents, ild do well to endeavour to cultivate their tender
ids, and to plant things good and profitable in them he It often turns to good account (though not .
ays) and when it doth not, the parents having done r duty are clear of their blood, and of what mis. of may befal them through their ungodliness, folly,
intemperance afterwards. rom the seventh to the fourteenth year, then the 3 of wise and thoughtful parents is, to give them able learning, and to seek for the best master that
be got for them, which indeed is a great point of idence ; for corrupt and intemperate teachers are often tful to youth, and men of bad principles may be iniments of instilling the like principles into their chil.
A good understanding, good manners, and good inciples, a religious, wise, and discerning parent would Ieem before letters and figures ; although to be well patructed in these also, is considerable, but the other precable. And here let teachers and the youths be careful of
eness, for that is the mother of many mischiefs; and bad sirds, bad actions, and bad company, ought to be avoided, obich taint and corrupt the minds of the little tender
sing the sacred name in vain, cursing, swearing, talk-
regulate which, the parents and tutors should join toether in a wholesome discipline. Some indulgent pa:nts mightily hurt their youth by tying up the hands of eir teachers from discreet correction. No discreet acher will use broom or mop-sticks, or door or window
bars, to correct their youths; that would be unmanly, as well as unwise; but the rod never did any harm in a skilful hand. And both at home and at school, it is profitable for the youth to be diligent in reading the holy scrip tures, which are preferable to all other books, though other good books are profitable also, and beneficial to improve the understanding; whereas filthy and irrelig
: ious corrupt romances, and profane play-books, often poison, and are the bane or ruin of youth; and when once they come to be in love with those black dark works
, sacred truths are of little value to them, which is an ev. ident token or sign of the evil tendency of evil books: though there may be some sort of philosophy in some of them, yet, if it is vain, and lies and deceit
, we had need to be careful our youth are not spoiled therewith ; and indeed those of riper years are often hurt thereby
, else why did the learned apostle Paul write to the prim. itive christians to “Beware lest any of them should be spoiled through (wrong) philosophy, and vain deceit." Col. ii 8. If all this care and pains, besides charge, should be forgotten, it betokens great stupidity.
From fourteen to twenty-one, more care comes of afresh upon the heart and mind of the faithful and lov. ing father, and affectionate and tender mother, that their offspring may do well, both as to this world, and also to that which is to come. It is indeed commendable, and also a duty in the parents, to take care in putting their children in a way, as much as lies in their power, to live in the world; but, above all things, to endeavour to promote their eternal happiness and interest in the life to come. This is so much the more honourable
, by how much the one is external, and the other etemal
. Oh, eternity ! eternity! that we did but think more up, on it, though we thought less of the externals; although some think too little upon the substantial part of them too, and forget to be just in the things of meum and tuum, or between man and man.
But to return to the youth. And, as to trade, the law of nations forbids them to trade, or to trade with them, till they arrive at the years of twenty-one, as sup.
posing their understanding not fully ripe for business till that age; and therefore many, and some of the wisest heads upon earth, and men of vast estates, have thought it rational and proper for youth to be put apprentice for seven years: this is looked upon as expedient, although they have many thousands to give them when they come to age; and indeed many youths have been ruined and undone for want of such service; and some of the brightest and finest of our young men have spent more before they arrived to that age, than their parents had to begin the world withal ; nay, some, many times more, for want of employ in some commendable calling; for, having so much idle time on their hands, they have taken to idle company, and become idle com. panions themselves also ; and so the youth have corrupted one another, to their great hurt and damage, as to their outward substance; and which is yet worse, as to their soul's welfare ; and such “ Evil communication corrupts good manners ;” and if they were employ. ed in business, they, in this respect, would be out of harm's way, out of the way of those rocks that would : make a prey of them.
In order to the well doing or being of the youth in the time of his seven years servitude, we ought to be very careful to choose such masters as are of good report ;
first, as to their religion, ingenuity, industry, justice and , temperance, and one who hath acquired to a way of liv
ing well ; such a master is worthy, and ought to be obey. ed. It often happens, that before this time is over, the youth are uneasy, and are wont to go home to their parents, with complaints; but without a real occasion or necessity. It is far better, and much more honourable for
young men to stay out their appointed time: and when they come to have their lawful liberty, it will be more sweet to them ; and people will be the more free and engaged to deal and trade with them, and the parents will have the greater encouragement to set them up in their calling. A common maxim, which is generally fulfilled, is worthy of 'note here (i. e.) “Those that are good for their masters, are good for themselves,” and it mostly happens.so.
And as to masters, since they are generally gain the service and work of their servants, they ought to them well, as to their accommodations, and not to ez. their labour to oppression, remembering we all has Master, who is in heaven, and that every one of us our condition be what it will in this world) must be countable for the deeds done here on earth, to him in kingdom.
It must not be forgotten, that servants ought a serve their masters with eye-service; but justly do me their duty as though they were actually present, orn in view. And as their indentures bind against carba dice, and all unlawful games, and gaming being destructive to youth, as well as to their masters
' intra it is in an especial manner to be avoided. For games leads into many other evils, and, at the best, ten draw the heart and mind from heavenly to earthly this Also the servant is not to see his master any way frauded, it being all one in the foundation, whether servant does it himself, or sees (with approbatio other do it. And that which would make the time 3 pleasanter, and seem not so long and tedious, is to * cheerful and good natured, and to be sure to freios the public worship of Almighty God. And mas would do well to let their servants go sometimes to Do private duty: and if the servant be conscientious
, 5 master will be no loser by such indulgence. Also se vants ought to be kind to their masters' children, is reputable : and masters ought not to let their childr. insult their servants : and if the servants merit com tion, let it be done prudently, and not in a fury; the heat of passion ; for such correction, in the hea passion, oftener hardens the heart, than amends : manners of the youth so corrected.
Both the master and servant ought strictly to obser and not to break their covenants which they have me ally agreed to in their indentures, signed and sealed fore witnesses, or else they lose their title to juso
. and as it is not prudent or just, neither is it lawful so do. . It is a great happiness in a family when the main